I feel like letting go of expectations is one of my biggest challenges. To be more specific, letting go of expectations when it comes to those nearest and dearest to me. I feel like a glutton for punishment because I know better, but I just can’t seem to help myself 😉
I was looking at a personality test that I did a few years ago and apparently, it’s a trait that people who have the same personality type as mine. You can find the test here: http://www.16personalities.com. It’s like Myers-Briggs. After re-reading the results, I realized that not much has changed!
According to the test, I’m a Mediator – INFP-A. According to the description, one of my weaknesses is that I’m too idealistic. I’m not surprised. I’m a Pisces, and there hasn’t been a description of that star sign that doesn’t include the trait of “dreamer” 🙂
I like to think that I’m a pragmatic dreamer if there is such a thing. In my efforts not to get lost in La-La land, I do my best to approach things from a realistic perspective, but sometimes I just can’t help myself! I enjoy getting lost in fantasy books and movies and I will never say no to a sappy love story.
I’m constantly being reminded that everyone is on their own journey. Some started before I did, and some have started after me. It’s not about catching up to one another but being there for each other.
It’s about understanding that on this journey, we all have our lessons to learn. As individuals we get to choose when and how we learn the lesson. It isn’t a timed exam where the answer must come by midnight on a certain day. It’s going to happen when it needs to happen, and I need to just continue to work on myself!
I think that the biggest lesson that I’m reminded of is IT’S NOT ABOUT ME! I am prone to taking things personally and while I’m better than I was 5 or 10 years ago, it’s still a work in progress. Old habits like to make appearances occasionally, I guess.
Things happen. Disappointments are inevitable. The beautiful thing is that we get to choose what we do with life’s let downs. It didn’t happen “to us”, it happened “for us”. Will I ever be at a point where I never have expectations of others? Who knows? Will I continue to take things personally, making them all about me? Absolutely not!
Are you with me? ♥